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Preggers, finally.

I am presently 12 weeks and 5 days pregnant.  The first trimester has been mostly nausea-free, though I do feel exhausted often and feel like this baby is sucking the marrow out of my bones.  So I nap a lot.  And I pee a lot too.  

Baby Bean in utero, 12 weeks, 5 days

Baby Bean in utero, 12 weeks, 5 days

I’m 40 years old.  My darling hubby and I conceived naturally, after 18 months of trying.  We had to switch OB/GYNs once (the first one was pretty clueless and wanted to shove me off to IVF immediately because of my age).  My current OB diagnosed me with polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) after an ultrasound examination and put me on metformin to regulate my blood sugar.  I then went through 4 cycles of Clomid, 3 cycles were monitored, and we still failed to conceive.  

At this point, we were referred to a fertility specialist, who recommended we try IVF with ICSI (that’s when they inject the sperm directly into the egg), because hubby was having some issues too.  They would pump me full of drugs, harvest my eggs, inject them with hubby’s sperm, implant 2 or 3 embryos in my uterus and hope that one of them stuck.  They gave us a 25-30% chance of success, given my age.  The procedure would cost us $13,000.  

This was all very discouraging, of course. The entire process was completely devoid of soul.  I felt very uncomfortable with it.  The fertility clinic, while warm and friendly, was treating my body like a machine.  It’s a business to make babies, and big business.  To me, this just felt wrong.  We were talking about bringing a child into the world, not a widget.  

I told hubby I wanted to take a break from the fertility clinic.  I wanted to take a step back and evaluate the process, consider my infertility issues and my health as a whole.  We would have to face the possibility that we could not conceive and have a biological child.

The main thing about “Advanced Maternal Age” (which is over 35) is the question of egg quality.  The older you are, the older your eggs, the more exhausted your egg reserve.  It makes you feel mortal, which I suppose isn’t a bad thing, but it was greatly disappointing to face the possibility that we couldn’t have a biological child.  We had always talked about adoption (and still hope to adopt!), but the inability to conceive was a loss we would have to grieve.

Around this time, I started to see an acupuncturist and do my own research about infertility.  I came across The Fertility Diet, published by Harvard Medical School, which addressed diet issues regarding PCOS.  Basically, the research encourages a low-glycemic diet to help control blood sugar issues.  I also read a book called Fertility Wisdom, which outlines the role of traditional Chinese medicine (chi, blood flow) in conception.  This latter book was a little woo-woo, but I liked the more wholistic and spiritual approach it took towards conception.  The philosophy was that we could not control whether we got pregnant or not, we could only prepare my body to invite a child into our lives. 

I definitely needed to lose weight; I had gained about 20 pounds thanks to the stress of my previous job as the executive director of a non-profit.  I put myself and hubby on the fertility diet and exercised more.  I lost 18 pounds.  Hubby lost 20.  I was ovulating naturally, without the aid of drugs, for the first time in years.

Three months after starting acupuncture, diet and exercise adjustments, we conceived.  40-year-old eggs.  Miracle baby.

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